Why do therapists love “I statements” so much?

If you’ve been in therapy, taken a parenting class, a couples communication class, an anger management class, or worked with a mental health professional in pretty much any capacity, you’ve probably heard about “I statements.” They are a basic tool in the communication toolbox, and for good reason. While “I statements” alone won’t magically turn…

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Want to Feel More In Love?

As Valentine’s Day approaches we get a lot of messages from the world about love and romance, but sometimes we’re not feeling as much in love with our partners as we’d like to. Here are 5 ways to connect more lovingly with your partner starting today: Create a “hello” ritual A kiss, a hug, a…

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What are Your Values, and Why Should You Care?

Values are our guideposts in life. Our ideals, our principles – they are the things that matter most to us. Values are personal for each of us and are formed by our family backgrounds, our culture, our experiences, and our personalities. Values give us direction and help us stay true to ourselves when the path…

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Taking the Leap

On a recent shopping trip to Trader Joe’s, I bought a package of smoked oysters. As the check-out clerk scanned it he mentioned he had recently tried smoked oysters for the first time. Then he said, “I was intimidated to try them, and now I can’t believe I haven’t been eating these all along!” Does…

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Hope: The Essential Element

“Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning.” -Albert Einstein Hope is the belief that you may be able to have what you want. It motivates us to get out of bed in the morning. It gives us a reason to show up: because we think…

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Why is Self-Care So Important?

Most people respond to the idea of taking care of ourselves in one of two ways: a) It’s a no brainer – if I don’t take care of myself, who will? or b) It’s selfish to take care of myself. Where do you fall? If you’re in the second camp, let me explain how “self-care”…

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Ah, new parenthood.

New parenthood. What an amazing time. The hospital actually allowed you to take home this tiny little life, and now you have to take care of it! You used to have time to cater to your partner; now you barely have time to take a shower. The little critter takes up all your spare time…

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